a letter more for myself.
i saw my cousin tonight. she just turned 14 last week. for some reason, i feel like there are some things i would like to say to her, just to make sure she's ok.
dear libby,
so you just turned 14. a hard hard age. i want you to know that i'm here for you if you ever need to talk. i know that i've been absent from your life for most of your life. what can i say? i've got my own shit to deal with and have just been working on that recently. going to family stuff is part of that.
14 was a pretty shitty year for me. i'm not trying to scare you. and i'm willing to bet that your 100 times smarter than me. but i wanted to mention some things to you anyways.
your friends will most likely be jerks. you look alot younger than them, as i did, and alot of people are going to give you shit for it. especially boys. don't listen to fucking boys. they're fucking idiots. and don't listen to anything they have to say regarding your image. seriously.
never date or stay with a guy who makes you feel like shit. even if he is your first 'real' boyfriend. his words could affect the way you feel about yourself for years. if you find yourself in a situation where you're not comfortable, get out. for real. get the fuck out, and fast. go home, make up an excuse. don't let boys pressure you into things. especially drugs or sex.
on that note.
when you do start having sex, use condoms. every time. these stds they talk about in health class? they do exist. they're not as bad as they make them out to be in health class but talking to people about them once you have one sucks in a major way. granted, it will get better as you get older, but for stupid little assholes who have no idea, telling them that you may have something will not be fun. so use condoms. please.
if you need to talk about something, find someone you can talk to. a mentor, older relative, therapist, whoever. write in a journal. things like drugs, alcohol and cutting may seem to work temporarily, but they don't. most likely you'll crave them in some weird way for the rest of your life. don't smoke cigarettes. seriously. it's fucking expensive, and you will want them forever when and if you do quit. that feeling of addiction never goes away. remember that.
you'll most likely run into drugs at some point. if you're going to experiment you're going to experiment, but take caution if you do. the problem with drugs is that they can become a major part of your life and then instead of doing stuff like learning what it is to be an adult and responsible, and what your interests are, you're more interested in counting your pennies in your piggy bank to get a bag. and it happens fast. then you end up in your twenties finally learning all the shit you should have learned when you were a teenager but you were too fucked up to care. so use caution.
learn how to say no. don't feel stupid if boys tell you you're worthless if you don't sexually please them. and don't feel bad if you don't have a boyfriend. most boys are a waste of time anyways.
stay true to yourself. those girls that seem to have it all? this is their prime and then it ends, believe me.
have a hobby. if you don't like it, get another one and stick with it. you'll love yourself later for having a cool creative talent that no one else has. don't concentrate so much on grades in high school, concentrate on finding out what you like to do. all those stupid classes they make you take? pay attention anyways, because you might end up finding something you love in them.
cherish the little things. don't get in cars with strangers. don't drink during the day on a schoolday. be as honest as you can.
take care of your body as much as you can. as soon as you hit 24 it starts to break down. weird, i know, and i know that it seems very far away, but you will thank yourself later.
get good habits.
love yourself.
ditch nasty friends.
if someone assualts you, tell someone.
and belive that no matter what happens, shit will get better.
high school is a fucked up place, with fucked up kids who have no idea what is going on.
you'll make it through. and i'm sure that i didn't even have to tell you half of this.
hugs and kisses,
larisa
dear libby,
so you just turned 14. a hard hard age. i want you to know that i'm here for you if you ever need to talk. i know that i've been absent from your life for most of your life. what can i say? i've got my own shit to deal with and have just been working on that recently. going to family stuff is part of that.
14 was a pretty shitty year for me. i'm not trying to scare you. and i'm willing to bet that your 100 times smarter than me. but i wanted to mention some things to you anyways.
your friends will most likely be jerks. you look alot younger than them, as i did, and alot of people are going to give you shit for it. especially boys. don't listen to fucking boys. they're fucking idiots. and don't listen to anything they have to say regarding your image. seriously.
never date or stay with a guy who makes you feel like shit. even if he is your first 'real' boyfriend. his words could affect the way you feel about yourself for years. if you find yourself in a situation where you're not comfortable, get out. for real. get the fuck out, and fast. go home, make up an excuse. don't let boys pressure you into things. especially drugs or sex.
on that note.
when you do start having sex, use condoms. every time. these stds they talk about in health class? they do exist. they're not as bad as they make them out to be in health class but talking to people about them once you have one sucks in a major way. granted, it will get better as you get older, but for stupid little assholes who have no idea, telling them that you may have something will not be fun. so use condoms. please.
if you need to talk about something, find someone you can talk to. a mentor, older relative, therapist, whoever. write in a journal. things like drugs, alcohol and cutting may seem to work temporarily, but they don't. most likely you'll crave them in some weird way for the rest of your life. don't smoke cigarettes. seriously. it's fucking expensive, and you will want them forever when and if you do quit. that feeling of addiction never goes away. remember that.
you'll most likely run into drugs at some point. if you're going to experiment you're going to experiment, but take caution if you do. the problem with drugs is that they can become a major part of your life and then instead of doing stuff like learning what it is to be an adult and responsible, and what your interests are, you're more interested in counting your pennies in your piggy bank to get a bag. and it happens fast. then you end up in your twenties finally learning all the shit you should have learned when you were a teenager but you were too fucked up to care. so use caution.
learn how to say no. don't feel stupid if boys tell you you're worthless if you don't sexually please them. and don't feel bad if you don't have a boyfriend. most boys are a waste of time anyways.
stay true to yourself. those girls that seem to have it all? this is their prime and then it ends, believe me.
have a hobby. if you don't like it, get another one and stick with it. you'll love yourself later for having a cool creative talent that no one else has. don't concentrate so much on grades in high school, concentrate on finding out what you like to do. all those stupid classes they make you take? pay attention anyways, because you might end up finding something you love in them.
cherish the little things. don't get in cars with strangers. don't drink during the day on a schoolday. be as honest as you can.
take care of your body as much as you can. as soon as you hit 24 it starts to break down. weird, i know, and i know that it seems very far away, but you will thank yourself later.
get good habits.
love yourself.
ditch nasty friends.
if someone assualts you, tell someone.
and belive that no matter what happens, shit will get better.
high school is a fucked up place, with fucked up kids who have no idea what is going on.
you'll make it through. and i'm sure that i didn't even have to tell you half of this.
hugs and kisses,
larisa
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